Monday, March 31, 2008

Adoption Analogy

Everyday the waiting game gets harder for me. I try to be patient, I really do. But, some days my heart just aches for a baby and today is that day. I know that we will have the baby that is meant for our family and knowing that helps me on days like these. One of the adoption blogs that I follow posted this analogy about adoption and I think it is great!


Deciding to have a baby is like planning a trip to Australia. You've heard it's a wonderful place, you've read many guide-books and feel certain you're ready to go. Everyone you know has traveled there by plane. They say it can be a turbulent flight with occasional rough landings, but you can look forward to being pampered on the trip. So you go to the airport and ask the ticket agent for a ticket to Australia. All around you, excited people are boarding planes for Australia. It seems there is no seat for you; you'll have to wait for the next flight. Impatient, but anticipating a wonderful trip, you wait --- and wait --- and wait.


Flights to Australia continue to come and go. People say silly things like, "Relax. You'll get on a flight soon." Other people actually get on a plane and then cancel their trip, to which you cry, "It's no fair!" After a long time the ticket agent tells you, "I'm sorry, we're not going to be able to get you on a plane to Australia. Perhaps you should think about going by boat." "By BOAT!" you say. "Going by boat will take a very long time and it costs a great deal of money. I really had my heart set on going by plane."

So you go home and think about not going to Australia at all. You wonder if Australia will be as beautiful if you approach it by sea rather than air. But you have long dreamed of this wonderful place, and finally you decide to travel by boat. It is a long trip, many months over many rough seas. No one pampers you. You wonder if you will ever see Australia. Meanwhile, your friends have flown back and forth to Australia two or three more times, marveling about each trip.

Then one glorious day, the boat docks in Australia. It is more exquisite than you ever imagined, and the beauty is magnified by your long days at sea. You have made many wonderful friends during your voyage, and you find yourself comparing stories with others who also traveled by sea rather than by air. People continue to fly to Australia as often as they like, but you are able to travel only once, perhaps twice.

Some say things like, "Oh, be glad you didn't fly. My flight was horrible; traveling by sea is so easy." You will always wonder what it would have been like to fly to Australia. Still, you know God blessed you with a special appreciation of Australia, and the beauty of Australia is not in the way you get there, but in the place itself.

10 comments:

Ray said...

Hang in there Jen!

Anonymous said...

Wow Jen, that's a beautiful analogy! I'm sorry you had a rough day! Is there anything I can do? Know that we're praying for you guys!!

Jamie said...

That was so neat to read. Just keep your eyes on the prize! Australia will be BEAUTIFUL!!!

Jamie said...

by the way.....here is a scripture that has helped me lately..

Mark 11:24
Therefore I say unto you, What things soever ye desire, when ye pray, believe that ye receive them, and ye shall have them.

Adams said...

That was great. I liked it because it made be look at the adoption differently for you. YOu are in our prays and I tell my self things are in the Lords hands and not mine.

Amy said...

I am so glad you found me! It's funny, because I've been thinking about lately, wondering where you are and how you are doing. Thank you for leaving a little note on my blog!

Are your two daughters adopted? I have a niece going through the slow adoption process also. It's agonizing. She was able to get pregnant once, but the baby died before she was even born. They've been trying to adopt ever since and it's been really hard.

Good luck. I love you! Australia is beautiful!

James and Lauren said...

PS... that is a beautiful analogy... i knwo that its different for us... but i really do understand. Love you!

Leavitt Family said...

Hey Jen, Staci here. It has been fun to read about the comings and goings of you and your cute family. Alan sure thinks a lot of Jeff. He said that he can't help but smile when he sees him. You guys are a special family!

Aaron said...

My thoughts are with you. Yearning for a child and having it not happen when you want is so hard. I love ya and am hoping it all turns out the way you hope.

Are you free on Friday for a girls night out in Twin Falls?

Amy said...

I would love to have the lawyers info. I will pass it on to my niece. My email is dixiedotsons@hotmail.com. Have fun with Alita and give her an extra hug from me!